Friday, May 2, 2014

Easter 2014

I know this is a bit late but…..

Easter went well. Some of the kids dyed eggs for the very first time.

Some have never hunted for eggs before.

It was great to be able to be with them for their “firsts”.

It is funny that some would rather adopt a newborn so they can experience the child’s “firsts”. I’m here to say, even at 15- and 13-years-old, there are still some firsts to experience.

It is great!

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There is one in every crowd LOL

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Even 17-year-old boys still get into the egg dying process.

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Using muffin tins for the younger crowd worked better than passing cups around.

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Using markers for the youngest two was a much safer option as well. Jeremiah (age 3) dropped his eggs so many times they were totally “scrambled” when he was done.

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Awww…..a very special egg.

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When we first got these aprons….Charlie (grandson) was about as small as Jeremiah. My how he has grown. He will be 13 on May 3rd (tomorrow) and is already about 5’6” tall. His voice is beginning to change too. So here he is holding his youngest uncle. LOL

Jaime and Ashley decided they wanted to crochet themselves their Easter dresses/skirts. They did a great job!

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Here is our Easter family portrait. This shot only took three tries LOL

He is Risen! Alleluia!

Vickie

Monday, April 21, 2014

Baptisms

Palm Sunday 2014 is going to be a Sunday always imprinted on our hearts.

All nine of our new kids were Baptized!!! Ages 3- to 15.

So exciting!

My mom and brother showed up which is the first time in 14 years, that I know of, they’ve been in church. I’m praying they got a lot out of the message.

Dave’s mom, brother, his girlfriend, her son and his girlfriend also showed up. The church they attend …. well actually I’m not sure how they do things but Dave’s mom wanted her to experience the Baptisms as a Lutheran, LCMS.

Good Friday was the 11th anniversary of bringing home our first sib group of 4. Good Friday this year our two oldest newest sons made the decision they want to finalize and be a permanent part of our family (they were questioning whether they really wanted to finalize or not. Nothing against us, more like loyalty to their birth families). But, they’ve decided that God brought them here for a reason and they may as well listen to what He has to say as to why. Nehemiah (15) is good about saying, “everything happens for a reason”.

Today in our Bible study we talked about Joseph and his brothers selling him into slavery. Joseph told his brothers that what was thought to do harm, God meant for good. Nehemiah totally relates to that story as he kept saying, “you are speaking my story”. God just might have something mighty important in mind for this boy of ours.

Here are a couple of pictures. Enjoy!

The second picture also includes our Brandy and her family.

God’s Blessings,

Vickie

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Smoothing out!

Things are smoothing out for the most part. Life is going forward. Just as I think we don’t have another appointment though, something comes up but I guess that’s life too.

I’ve been going to the chiropractor a couple of times a week to do “therapy” on my elbow. Apparently when I healed, it really tightened my tendons so I couldn’t straighten out my elbow at all. I have another 5-10% left to go to get it all the way to straight. I have full rotation now….whew! I can use it for the most part, just can’t extend it all the way to reach for something.

We’ve had the yucks too. Some of us didn’t go to church last Sunday but we are better now. Dave and Tawny didn’t go today but they are feeling much better this afternoon. I think we’ve hit the end of it.

Glad that is over.

As for Nehemiah and our “issue” on my last post……his mom has still not written him. Two of his grandmas have sent two of the kids birthday cards but sent directly to us. I know they’ve received the info about the correspondence protocol AND nothing for the younger five.

One of the kids’ caseworker’s complaint was that the parents wouldn’t follow the plan. Balked about everything. Wouldn’t attend required meetings. Etc. Now….they still aren’t following what has been established.

When….I mean really…when, will the family think of someone besides themselves!!! Nehemiah is hurt that he hasn’t heard a thing. He is thinking that either us, or his worker, is withholding mail from him (we aren’t, it was for the other kids and we won’t give it to them until they are much much older). They know the rules. They’ve been told more than once. Whether they like how we have to do this contact or not….it is about the kids and not about them.

We’ve had a couple of birthdays. Sofia turned 7 in February. She promised she’d be 6 for another year for us. LOL

Jeremiah turned 3 last Sunday. So now, the 2’s are gone too.

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Homeschooling is moving along. Now and again Adam says something about going to public school. I told him that God has called us otherwise so we’ll follow what He has called us to do. I leave it at that.

Jaime (18) and Donald (17) are going to teach soccer. Dennis (8) will be part of their team. Logan (4) will also be joining soccer this spring season. Our son-in-law, Robert, will be his coach. Practices start tomorrow and will be twice a week and games on Saturdays.

The youth group went tubing in February. Families were invited to go along so we took all the younger kids as well. Logan and Jeremiah weren’t too thrilled. They had to ride solo on their tubes, we weren’t warned to be sure they had goggles or something (we’d never been before). They were more than ready to come home. But we all had a blast!

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There’s a bit of an update for now.

Feeling blessed.

Vickie

Saturday, January 25, 2014

Dilemma

So, I found out last night that Nehemiah has been getting up at night and contacting his birth mom.

I have found birth mom on Facebook. So I look in now and again (I’m sure most is set for private but not everything). Nehemiah has a FB page too, and I keep an eye on that as well (he’s not allowed on it so I keep a watch).

Imagine my shock last night when I scrolled thru some of her shared links and see a photo of Nehemiah, taken downstairs in our bathroom, using one of the other kid’s iTouches holding it up to the mirror!! (I’m guessing using facetime or some such thing).

I printed the photo….wrote BUSTED! across the top. Then on the bottom wrote, “Really Nehemiah? You know the deal we had with contact, and you agreed to our terms. This goes against all trust issues.” I then laid it face down on his bed (I haven’t seen him yet this morning).

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Our terms, as per the caseworker, is all contact is written and has to go via the caseworker’s office. We will send it to her, she will forward it. And any contact in return has to go the same route. All inappropriate mail will be discarded (or labeled for me to give when the kids are older)

Only Nehemiah and Adam are allowed contact at this time as per our request. The boys are not to let the other kids know they received and/or sent anything.

The caseworker and the boys agreed to these terms..

I thought I had set all electronics with password protection. I forgot to double check every one of them apparently. Partially my fault, but I trusted him/them/all the kids….to stay off the electronics and never get on the internet without my permission.

<Ugh> so at a dilemma as to what to do for punishment.

He’s allowed contact….may not be the way he wants, but is the way the caseworker said it had to be until we finalize, or whatever timeframe we set after that date.

He agreed to the terms.

We told him until he was 18. He said, “Cool! I can deal with that.”

Apparently NOT!!!

It isn’t so much the contact that has me upset (although that can get us AND her in trouble).

It is the trust.

The promises broken.

Lines crossed.

I’m open to suggestions.

How would you handle a situation like this with your 15-year-old son?

Vickie

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

I’m here! I’m here!

I’m not lost. I haven’t forgotten

Life has been busy adjusting to seven more kids into the family.

Within the first 30 days all the new kids are suppose to have vision, dental, well-child checks, and therapy set up.

It took over 30 days getting their medicaid cards (adoption perk is medicaid until they each turn 18). By then it was December and I put my foot down that December is busy enough without adding in all those appointments. So I scheduled appointments for January.

Since the kids have been doing so well…..we got permission to forego the therapy, for now, with a wait and see approach. Any problems, we are to schedule ASAP.

Fair enough. The kids were dreading the therapy more than anything else.

So January has been extremely busy. I did have a couple open days but Nehemiah (15) decided to punch a wall and got a boxer’s fracture. So we had to cut our anniversary plans and come home to spend the rest of the afternoon at the ER. Two days later (the only open day that week) we had to take him to the specialist in the big city. He fractured middle and ring fingers on his right hand right next to the growth plates.

Then two days later I slipped on the ice and fractured the radius ball in my left arm. I’m typing one handed now. I don’t have a cast. Nehemiah chose a hot pink cast.

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We had full intentions to put Nehemiah (15) and Adam (13) in public school because.

  1. We are technically suppose to put all the kids in public school until we finalize unless we have a waiver (we are waiting on that waiver).
  2. Nehemiah and Adam really wanted to go.
  3. It would bring more peace to our own homeschool with them not here for the majority of the day. Trying to do some school in November and December with them was a pain. Even some of the other kids wanted to go to public school because “school is not fun any more” because I spent too much time getting after those two boys and the 2- and 4-year-olds.

Well….the Lord had other plans. We planned to wait until winter break for public school was over and enroll them. It would be the beginning of second semester not coming in the middle/end of the first one, the holiday season was over, they were more settled, etc.

January 6th was the official enroll date. Some of the kids had eye appointments in the morning, then we’d have lunch and enroll the boys. Be done with that in time for the confirmation kids to get to class.

The eye appointment took way longer than is typical. We had a late lunch, less than an hour to kill before taking the kids to confirmation so we didn’t get them enrolled.

Tuesday, we had the specialist appointment for Nehemiah. He’d have had to miss school that day anyway.

Wednesday, we had snow and icy roads and warnings to not go out if not necessary. I didn’t feel it was necessary to enroll the boys that day.

Thursday, some of the other kids had eye appointments. After that we ran to the store, then we were to pick up the grandkids and bring them home for school. Right on their sidewalk, I slipped on the black ice.

I thought I had bruised myself pretty bad. But as I drove to pick up our other two students, I got to thinking/feeling that the pain was unlike any pain I’d ever felt before, so I began to suspect a break.

I drove to the shop and asked Brandy to take the kids and food home and have Dave drive me to the ER.

It took nearly three hours to get an x-ray! Sent me home with a sling.

Friday, well I just didn’t feel like going any where. I slept most of the day because of the pain in my arm.

I told the boys (actually on Thursday when I got home) that I feel that God is putting up road blocks trying to tell us to not put the boys in school.

Nehemiah said he’d do whatever God wanted us to do. Adam said he didn’t care what God wanted, he wanted to go to public school.

By Friday afternoon Adam came to me and said he agreed that God probably doesn’t want them in public school.

I told Adam that I am glad he agreed because, there is no way I was going against God’s will for us because, life would get much more miserable then that week had already been.

So….we haven’t enrolled them.

And you know, life has gone much more smoothly since we made that decision. I ordered their books right away. They have been trickling in. School has also gone much smoother than we were doing before the holiday season set in. Now to get thru January and the rest of the appointments and onto a more steady schedule.

We are getting there one day at a time by the grace of God.

Have a fantabulous day!!

God’s Blessings

Vickie