Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Homeschooling Myths

I’ve posted adoption myths, I thought it would be fun to post some homeschooling myths.

1. Myth: Most homeschoolers are religious fanatics. I’m not sure what a “religious fanatic” is. But if it is someone who believes that Jesus Christ is my Lord and savior and died on the cross and was resurrected to pay the price for my sins and that I believe that I am truly saved by the grace of God and for no other reason….then I guess I could be a religious fanatic. But I know that not all homeschoolers believe what I believe.

2. Myth: Most homeschoolers have lots of kids. Depends on what your definition of “lots” is. Some think that more than 2.3 is a lot of kids. Some say a lot is 6 or more. Me…I may have more than is typical but I don’t think I have “lots” of kids. I know some homeschoolers whom only have one child, and I know other homeschoolers that have 19 or more.

3. Myth: Special needs kids can’t be homeschooled. I totally disagree. I believe that homeschooling our special needs kids helps them succeed. We know their needs, quirks, buttons, so much better than anyone else. Plus, to our kids consternation, we don’t enable them. We push their limits because we know they can do it.

4. Myth: All homeschool kids are super duper smart. Uh…nope. Some, yes. All, no. Homeschooling the kids lets them pursue more of their interests. Therefore, they can be more intelligent in some areas than is typical rather than waiting until college or later.

5. Myth: Homeschooled kids will not have a high school diploma. Totally false. We, as the homeschool parents, will issue the high school diploma. We will also write up the transcripts for college. No need for GED testing.

6. Myth: Homeschoolers won’t be able to attend good universities. More and more colleges and universities, including Ivy Leagues, are recruiting homeschooled students. Why? Because they are self-motivated, know how to study, typically have their heads on straight, and are at college because they want to be there not because their parents, or society, told them they had to be there.

7. Myth: They won’t make it in the “real world” because the kids are sheltered and not socialized. My kids are very social. They know how to talk with an elderly person with respect and the elderly enjoy talking with them. They don’t mind playing with the younger kids or having them tag along when they are doing something.

8: Myth: What about socialization? What’s your definition of socialization? Have you seen how some of the kids in public schools act?! How they talk? What their worldview is? We, as the parents, would rather have that influence over our kids while they are vulnerable verses same age peers having that influence. There isn’t any peer pressures to conform to when being homeschooled, and they’ll have formed their own worldview by the time they are ready to be on their own. Besides, when out in the “real world”, they won’t always be with same-age peers in everything they do. Why should they spend 13 formable years that way, and then not be ready for the “real world” when they learn their boss is younger than them, or much much older than they are? My kids are more socialized on a daily basis then the public school kids are hanging out with their same-aged peers.

9. Myth: Homeschooling is hard. (my 16 year old son said to add this one). Homeschooling isn’t hard. He likes that he can pretty well set his own schedule. He’d rather do math first thing in the morning. He can go at his own pace….faster or slow down if he needs to. When he’s done with his work, he’s done, and can go do other things with the rest of his day. He is set to graduate a year early.

10. Myth: You need a teaching certificate to homeschool. No, I don’t have a teaching certificate/license. I’m just a mom who graduated high school and took some continuing education classes because I wanted too. Do I know everything? Nope, does anyone know everything? I learn right along with my kids. I have the teachers’ books and I do exactly as any public school teacher does….I read the books. Public school teachers don’t know everything either. They do their lesson plans, they have to do their research when they come across something they don’t quite understand. Having a license to teach doesn’t make a teacher.

11. Homeschooling is expensive. It is only as expensive as you want to make it. I purchase our supplies at the back-to-school sales, and I get enough to last all year. I don’t purchase new rulers, scissors, pencils, or even a backpack or lunchbox every year. We have our scissor box, glue box, ruler jar, pencil jar. I purchase notebooks by the case when they are 17 cents each. As for curricula….most anyone will tell you, with a library card, a notebook, and a pencil….nothing else needs to be purchased (computer and printer are nice too). There are many many sites online that have free downloads. Free unit studies. It is only as expensive as you want to make it. The biggest expense we will have this year is our math, and it is because it is the math program we have chosen, but to purchase everyone’s math book is a whole lot cheaper than enrolling one high school student in the public school. Have you seen some of those fees let along the new clothes to “fit in”? Sheesh!

12. Myth: We must have the patience of Job to homeschool. My kids only wish. We have bad days too. Being homeschooled or public schooled, we all have bad days now and again. There has to be a lot of give and take, apologies and forgiveness. Homeschooling has nothing to do with it. Good thing you weren’t here last Friday. It is amazing that the kids still have heads and still talk to me. LOL

13. Myth: All homeschoolers think that everyone should homeschool. I disagree. I know not everyone is called to homeschool. I know that some kids are better off in public schools to be watched by safe adults. But be prepared if a public school mom asks a homeschool mom for suggestions on how to help their child….be prepared for homeschooling advice. Is homeschooling the answer to every issue a child may have? Eh, not “every” issue, but I think it would totally help in a lot of issues Smile

Another thing that isn’t necessarily a myth just my own perspective and .02…I truly believe that all adopted school-aged kids should be homeschooled at least the first year after placement. I think it is a shame that many workers don’t agree with that. Homeschooling the kids helps them to focus on family, bonding, trusting, without having to keep up with school and all the pressure that goes with that. I believe it should be part of the placement plan. Some kids really need this time.

Do you have any myths you’ve had to set straight as a homeschool family?

God’s Blessings



Natalie said...

I love your blog!! Please let us know how it's going with the adoption process. Are you able to homeschool them? NAtalie

Mrs. B, a very peculiar person said...

Loving the myth busters! At some time or another, we've had to "educate" others on all of them including:
"Most kids hate school. Homeschooling only creates resentment towards parents instead of teachers."
My response - I've found that most children who dislike school are bored and lack enough academic challenges, are consistently ridiculed by other students and sometimes teachers, OR have fallen in with a "bad crowd". Homeschooling allows one to design an education that is "custom fitted" to each student offering sincere challenges and learning opportunities thus eliminating boredom. Homeschooling eliminates bullying so each child is free to become secure in himself, most parents accept their children's differences thus, eliminating insecurities. Homeschooling guards children from negative peer pressure to conform to a "bad crowd". Homeschooling places the child in an environment where their family members are the primary role models - good, bad or ugly. Children will model the environment they associate with.
Most adults would NEVER work in unchallenging jobs where they are subjected to bullying by co-workers & supervisors OR is forced to work with co-workers who are involved in illegal enterprises. Why should our children be forced into an environment we adults would never tolerate in our own workplaces?

Whew! not until I typed it out did realize how long that response was to that myth.